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I am struggling with how cancer consumes my everyday thoughts. This month is especially difficult when we are bombarded with pink everywhere. I finished treatment 7 months ago and I still have it on my mind everyday. When will it go away?

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Survivor since 2010 about 3 years
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  • E Roberts Profile
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    Stage 2A Patient
    Hi Betsy, sorry to hear your struggling, it is hard once you've had your diagnosis because it can never be taken back, so you live with thoughts. Everybody deals with their diagnosis differently and there is no right or wrong way to do so, your feelings are completely natural and normal. I have dealt with my cancer with a huge smile on my face and a what will be will be attitude, it does not mean that this is the right way, it's just my way! The things that have helped me be positive are the following thoughts and minds set. 1. I can't change the fact I have cancer so I can deal with it with a smile or I can worry and be sad and disrupt my life far more, but my story will have to be the same ending no matter which reaction I choose.....so I choose to smile. 2. If I think about it everyday it won't change anything, I'll just be wasting more of my precious time and happiness on cancer, I refuse to give it any more time than I have to and it deserves! 3. Since I have been diagnosed with cancer I am now so well monitored that should there be any problems or further difficulties, I have a better chance of it being sorted than the general population. 4. I may be sore, I may be tired and I may have a very long journey ahead of me but I still here to make that journey and that means I'm wining this battle and cancer is losing. 5. If it comes back, I'll deal with it again and next time I'll have inside information. I will not waste my life worrying about something that may never come back. Should the worse happen.......I'm going my way, with my rules not on cancers terms. All I can say is you are now 7 months post treatment, it will soon be 7 years then 17 years......enjoy them and show cancer that it picked the wrong person. You have done amazing, you should feel so proud of yourself for being such strong woman and getting to where you are now. As for the pink everywhere, can get a bit much (I even found pink milk the other day?!!!) just think, the pink, makes pounds which pays for great cancer research, which helps all of us..........I'm still not drinking the milk though!!
    about 3 years Bandera
    • lisa epstein Profile
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      Stage 1 Patient

      What you said may me feel much better. I had uterus cancer 9 weeks ago had hysterectomy and thats all i needed, Now i have breast cancer I had a lymsectomy, stage 2, tumor size was 2.1 and grade was 3. I am er+ lympe nodes are neg and their are...

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      What you said may me feel much better. I had uterus cancer 9 weeks ago had hysterectomy and thats all i needed, Now i have breast cancer I had a lymsectomy, stage 2, tumor size was 2.1 and grade was 3. I am er+ lympe nodes are neg and their are clear margins. I have been through alot and I am always depressed. I too always have cancer on my mind. Next week I go to oncologist wondering what treatment I will need. I guess one thing that is true we will be monitored very closely now which is good, people could be walking around with cancer and dont even know it.

      almost 3 years Bandera
    • E Roberts Profile
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      Stage 2A Patient

      I'm glad what I said help, if I can help in any way I will. I'm sorry that you have had to go through such a lot, but the fact that you've gone through it shows me you're already a fighter, you should be very proud and should see that you are...

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      I'm glad what I said help, if I can help in any way I will. I'm sorry that you have had to go through such a lot, but the fact that you've gone through it shows me you're already a fighter, you should be very proud and should see that you are stronger than you may give yourself credit for. You are completly right, some of my colleagues were previously cancer nurse specialists and they tell me all the time, that I am so well monitored that they are at a higher risk of having cancer and never knowing. I hope everything goes well at your appointment next week and that you'll soon be well into your treatment with everything going well and you showing cancer.......that you are in charge. I am now 7 months post diagnosis, which is somewhere I thought was so far away in the begining but it soon comes and it will for you too.

      almost 3 years Bandera
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  • Betsy Chapin Profile
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    Survivor since 2010
    Thank you to each and every one of you for answering. You have really helped me become more optimistic about this and I know this all consuming breast cancer feeling shall pass. In most moments of the day, I am the happiest I have ever been in my life due to my cancer journey. Time shall heal and cancer will stay in the background of my life. Today is a good day!
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  • Diana Foster Payne Profile
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    Stage 4 Patient
    Hi Betsy, unfortunately I can't answer that. I often wonder the same. Will it ever end? I am still in the middle of my treatments. I finished my last chemo just a few weeks ago and will have a double mastectomy in less than two weeks. Then finally radiation. And you're right...pink is everywhere this month. Of course you and I...and all the other women
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  • Betsy Chapin Profile
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    Survivor since 2010
    Thank you everyone for your comments. It helps to know I'm not alone in feeling this way.
    about 3 years Comentario Bandera
  • Lysa Allison Profile
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    Learning About Breast Cancer
    I just finished treatment in August and I know how you feel. My oncologist has written a book and in it he talks about using this experience to become a better person and that is what I am trying to do. I have gotten closer to God and the special people in my life. I also have gotten my priorities straight. I feel better if I know I can do something with this experience rather than worry. Remember God loves you and will be there for you if you ask him.
    about 3 years Comentario Bandera
  • Cheryl Doggett Profile
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    Learning About Breast Cancer
    Hi, Betsy. I have found it helps to come up with a 'label' for my feelings. for breast cancer, my label is "it sucks!". The label helps diffuse the negative emotions and stress chemicals in our brains. Then, as others have suggested, find a positive thing to focus your attention and energy on. Whatever gives you fuel. Finally, exercise of any sort helps and is your best preventer. Keep the faith.
    about 3 years Bandera
    • Betsy Chapin Profile
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      Survivor since 2010

      Cheryl, I like your idea of labeling cancer. You made me laugh and choke up at the same time with yours. I may "borrow" yours.

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  • Ali S Profile
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    Survivor since 2011
    I've done some reading on coping and plan to join some support groups. I've heard most women need support after treatment when we try to jump right back in our 'normal' lives, but let's face it, we wont be the same after. I also think time helps...I'm too close to see that yet though
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  • Sallie HoyPoy Profile
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    Learning About Breast Cancer
    I eventually sought help when I fell apart after all my treatment was finished. I had been so strong for 12 months dealing with surgeries, chemo, radiation, etc and raising my girls and when it was all over I was exhausted and I didn't feel the same and I didn't look the same but I just wanted everything g to go back to how it was before so I could forget and move on. The counsellor helped me and my husband to work through a lot and I still have ups and downs but I am back at work and loving life :)
    about 2 years Comentario Bandera
  • Kathie Fredette Profile
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    Survivor since 1995
    Betsy, trust me it will get better. I was diagnosed 17 years ago and the only time I think about it is in October.I take this time to stay positive and appreciate the fact that I am still here to complain about how if I see anymore pink I might go mad. Stay positive and keep a sense of humor, that's what works for me.
    about 3 years Bandera
    • Betsy Chapin Profile
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      Survivor since 2010

      Kathie, Congratulations on being cancer free for 17 years! That is absolutely fantastic!

      about 3 years Bandera
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  • Audrey Donald Profile
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    Learning About Breast Cancer
    Betsy it won't go away but it does get better. I am two years after treatment and the pink is a bit overwhelming to me.
    about 3 years Comentario Bandera
  • Tammy Johnson Profile
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    Learning About Breast Cancer
    Hi Betsy, sorry to hear you are not a huge fan of pink. I do understand how you want to move past this part of your life. I am right smack in the middle of it. I still have 14 rounds of chemo left after a bilateral mastectomy. The way I plan to handle moving forward after my treatment is over is to get busy with work and hobbies. I lost my husband to cancer 3 years ago when i was 40. This was a major transition for me and staying very busy helped me through. Hopefully, it will work again after my treatment. Being productive and feeling good about myself and being able to cope gave me confidence I never thought I would have, .
    about 3 years Comentario Bandera
  • Patti E Profile
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    Learning About Breast Cancer
    I understand how you feel. My treatment ended 2 1/2 years ago and my health is good. Still though, I struggle a bit in October when you can't seem to escape the constant reminders. It does get easier and it will likely occupy less of your thoughts, but it will probably never fade from your mind completely.
    about 3 years Comentario Bandera

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