I can certainly relate. I had my right breast removed and the tissue expander didn't work for long. I decided not to have surgery, too much stress. I wear a genie bra with an insert. I can't wear anything too tight as it is obvious, at least to me. What I have found, is that nobody is looking that closely at us, we are our worst critics. Go get yourself fitted for a prosthetic bra when you are ready, nobody will know the difference. It's so hard to feel different, I didnt look at myself for a long time. You are healthy now, that is all that is important.